This week I’m participating in the Greater Detroit Romance Writers of America boot camp. Day Two was all about the Rules for Writing. We know what all the Rules are, such as no ‘ly’ words (or other adverbs or adjectives), no purple prose, show don’t tell, resist the urge to open a book with weather, dreams or prologues, and other sage advice. If you are a newbie like me and have no clue, here’s a good web site, chock full of plenty of rules from a wide range of published authors.
In general, each ring in the trunk of the tree represents a year of growth. This method of dating can be more or less complicated based upon your purpose and end results needed. The entire science is neatly wrapped around a word called Dendrochronology. Don’t ask me where this came from. A gentleman from the University of Arizona developed this theory which later became a science based upon the scientific method sometime in the earlier 20th Century.
Armed for your quest with these weapons, you can safely pass through the departure gates and begin serious pursuit of your elusive voice. Perhaps you’ll venture into the wold of critique groups or enter the arena of literary workshops and classes. No matter how you discover the craft or who teaches you, in the end, there is only you, the story, and the reader. Each is as important to the other.
Still, a girl has to have some rules, otherwise anarchy runs wild and chaos ensues. Believe me, I’ve been without boundaries, and it’s not a pretty sight.
For quite some time in the garotas de programa porto velho department I had to do for myself. I didn’t encounter guys who really wanted to be gentlemen. So instead of leaving, I tried to “correct” the issue by being a woman that did everything for myself that I didn’t feel I could get from unhealthy relationships.
Interacting with your ex on Facebook is a train wreck waiting to happen, especially if one still has feelings for the other, or you left your ex for the new person. A friendly gesture posted on your wall may seem harmless to you but come across as flirtatious to a boy/girlfriend who’s sitting back reading them. Or worse, your former love could reveal personal stories or private matters that you aren’t ready to expose.
The best way to appear as though you’ve moved on is to go out with friends. You want to ensure that you aren’t giving him the impression that you are already dating someone else. Using jealousy as a tool to try to get a second chance with your ex may actually backfire. He will assume you are completely over him and will then try and do the same by dating other women. Instead, hang out with friends, plan activities that will keep you busy and always stay in control of your emotions.